Acceptance

The willingness to take another person or yourself exactly as they are without expectation, criticism or judgment.

Commitment

The willingness to resolve conflict.

Conflict

A difference between two people (see Fight).

Congruent Action

When your behavior matches your principles.

Courage

The willingness to act when you are afraid or have something to lose. Courage cannot be utilized without a state of fear existing.

Elements of Self Esteem

Acceptance, limits and mastery.

Faith

My decision to believe in another’s promises or statements.

Fight

A difference between two people plus disrespectful behavior that both engage in.

Guilt

Happiness

The condition of living without fear.

Limits

The willingness to control one’s own behavior or to set boundary on the behavior of others insofar as it affects oneself.

Love

The combination of passion, acceptance and commitment.

Mastery

The willingness to devote energy into accomplishment for self or assistance of others.

Passion

The willingness to devote interests or energy to another person or activity.

Path of Wisdom

That place between the two swamps (see Swamp) characterized by the creation of safety and Congruent Action.

Philosophy

A set of guidelines for the conduct of life. Everybody needs one.

Safety

Physical, emotional, sexual and interpersonal sense of well being in the presence of others.

Self Esteem

The value I place on the decisions I’ve made in the last 24 hours.

Swamp of Right

That place reserved for people who buy into the illusion that they will be safe if they are right, in control or better than others.

Swamp of Wrong

That place reserved for people who lose the hope of being safe with another and therefore don’t care what they do.

Trust

The ability to predict another person’s behavior 80-90 percent of the time in a given situation.

Wisdom

The creation of mutual safety; also the product of self esteem.